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December 11, 2011

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Margaret

A positive on the subject of rape (if there can be one) is that at least it's a topic of discussion. Historically, in this country, it wasn't talked about. The woman would be stigmatized and victimized again by being ostracized if she dared to speak of the hideous crime.

Rape is about an imbalance of power whether it's a man raping a woman, a man raping another man or a man raping a child.

How do we stop it? Equality would be a good start. Any culture where an imbalance of power exists and where bullies thrive will continue to support the rape of those in positions of less power. How sad.

Laura

Thanks for your insights, Margaret.

The desire for power over is so often the result of feeling lack of self-esteem and lack of control over oneself. It seems that how we raise and what we teach our children needs to encompass far more than the elements of knowledge that can be found in a textbook.

R E S P E C T is that the key?

Margaret

That is a good place to start. Children learn from their parents, and if they're not taught to respect the rights of others and to feel empathy, how can they begin to understand how to operate and function in society?

So many bad behaviors are passed from one generation to the next. The cycle has to be broken.

Laura

I wonder what it would take to break it? Is it awareness? If other family members or neighbors or friends could understand the signs and not retreat back into their homes but speak up. But to who do they speak? People at school? The police? Social services? Child protective services? I bet there are organizations out there, but people don't know about them. Does it all go back to communication? Communicating concern and communicating to someone who can help, without disrupting.

Why are our homes such sacred spaces? Maybe we really do need the village.

Margaret

I don't know. Stopping ignorance would be a start, but how do you do that? Teaching, talking. As you say, communicating.

Boys learn behavior from their fathers regarding treatment of women. Some are fortunate to take a bad situation and learn what not to do.

As a parent, it surprises me what people don't talk to their kids about.

Laura

Maybe I need to rethink my whole sense of optimism. Are things--the way people act and treat each other--really getting any better? Maybe we're more comfortable over the course of history, but not better.

High Hopes

Women, children, boys and girls are not safe from rape in this country. The person raped is so often made to feel like it is their fault. People who molest children out living across the street from the school and people have children in their back yard and no one knows or does their job enough to find out. We are not in a position to judge how other countries treat their women like we are doing a better job. You have to look in the mirror at yourself (your country) and not forget what you saw once you walk away. Women in this country are still fighting for equal rights and fair treatment. The difference, we have the right to fight for it.

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