Visit dating websites, look at men in stores and cafes, start imagining yourself with some of them (one at a time, of course). You need to disassociate yourself from your spouse and rationally put yourself beside someone else. Though you may relish the solitude, don’t think that you have been sentenced to a life of isolation. And you don't need to imagine a "forever" relationship, imagine what you need--but just imagine.
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