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Oh my. Yes. I have gained a lot of weight in the last 4 or 5 years. It affects how I feel about seeing my mother, which grocery store I go to, how I dress, and on and on. Sad, I know. I'm still the same person, right? Just doesn't feel like it.

Laura of Rebellious Thoughts of a Woman

BetteJo, Mothers, do they have scales in their eyes? I guess I try to dress differently around my mother so that she won't comment on my having gained weight. And even if she comments that I lost weight, I feel the weight of the scales on me. I'm tired of thinking about my weight and about what I eat or should eat or should not eat. Today during lunch the conversation just kept going on about diets. Please, someone, make us not feel guilty for who we are.

Midlife Slices

YES! I've gained weight so I hate anyone seeing me, especially people that haven't seen me in the last two years. I hate it.

Midlife Slices

YES! I've gained weight so I hate anyone seeing me, especially people that haven't seen me in the last two years. I hate it.


Yes, I actually feel like I am a beautiful woman and it helps me be confident, no matter what the scale says. It's a battle I have had to face, but I like where I have ended up with it.

Laura of Rebellious Thoughts of a Woman

Why are we all so weight-obsessed? I think that facially speaking, I look great. I still get complimented on my smile and my eyes and my looking so young. So pants-busting thighs to the side, I look good. And I actually like my gray.


Oh gosh YES. And yes, it's the weight issue. I've gained so much weight that I doubt I'll go to my 25 year high school reunion. And why is so much shame attached to weight gain, she asked as she sat at the table eating her chocolate cupcake???

Liz A.

Yeah, I hate that surprised look of people who haven't seen you in awhile. I gained 50 lbs when I got married and I still get embarassed about it, but I didn't eat much when I was so thin and I had no idea I really did like to eat until I married. I've learned if someone's attitude makes you feel embarrassed about your weight, then you really shouldn't be around them.

she, I think if you want to see your old friends, then you should definitely go. Most of us gain weight as we age and it's nothing to be ashamed of. Buy a new dress and some new lingerie and have a fabulous time. Remember, skinny women are bitchy all the time b/c they're so hungry most of the time. One should not live solely on salad with dressing on the side.

Laura of Rebellious Thoughts of a Woman

she, I'm with Liz, I think you should go. At least you don't have to worry (I assume) about losing hair like the guys.

Liz, Hey, I eat salad with the dressing on the side. I hate that it gets watery! Thanks for coming by, good suggestions for how to make yourself feel good and not hide because you haven't come to terms with who you have become. ("You" in the generic sense.)

Liz A.

I get my dressing on the side, too. I was going for the, "one shouldn't live on bread alone." But I also order medium rare prime rib with a loaded baked potato. Mmmm, red meat.

I could do a whole blog post of why I like my dressing on the side.

And I've spent the past year trying to come to terms with my jean size jumping from an 8 to a 14 in just a few months, learning there's nothing wrong with Lane Bryant, Velveeta is supremely tasty, and no one's opinion but mine and sometimes my husband's really matters much.

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