A Minute to Myself (152)
Life as a Ruffly Dress

I Couldn’t Help Myself

For two days I have been dealing with mr.ex moving my dirty dishes and assorted pots to the dining room table (“my spot”) as punishment because I had the audacity to move his frying pan, that he put in the sink expecting me to wash it, and put it on his table. Childish, yes, but there are some lines that I don’t want to cross, and washing his dishes is one of the main ones. Anyway, there was this movement of dishes and then the requisite curses and insults from him that incorporated the weekend drama, because the rest of the time I was trying to grade 75 papers (all of which were bad, causing me to think what a bad teacher I am and what to do to help those 14-year-olds think and write at the same time).

All of this ridiculousness did prompt me to look for a rental place, which would cost the other half of my salary that my share of the mortgage here doesn't take, which would leave me and my daughters with nothing to live on. But I am determined to be out near my birthday, which is coming up.

Anyway. Back to the drama. While I know that I should not get on Craig’s List personals because it has become a real downer, it has, unfortunately, also become a bit of an obsession for me. I keep thinking that the reality is not the real reality so I keep expecting an actual man with intelligence, personality, and smile that charms me who finds all of that in me to make himself known. Alas, this has not happened. (Duh, for anyone who as read any posts here.) Do I scare them off with my verbal antics? Perhaps my discussion of why drama is an expected part of life scared off one man, while my ability to string sentences together that developed a point could have scared off another. I will not say looks because lately I have been found to be beautiful (YES!), except for Mark. Which brings me to what I couldn’t help doing.

Now mind you I broke a cardinal rule with Mark: I responded to an email that had lol (no, it was L.O.L.) in it—not just in one email, but in two out of three. And since he is not a man of many words, that was a big part of his writing. But I thought maybe I am being too discriminatory in the email part of the dating game, and I would give him the benefit of the doubt that his verbal ability will come out in conversation. DING DING DING. Dumb move. Stick to the rules, that’s why you made them.

Mark: Your very pretty Laura. I'm looking for some one that is height weight Proponent.  ?? Don’t mean to offend you ok.

(I will not even use my red pen to mark all of Mark’s grammatical errors, I will skip right to my response—which I couldn’t resist sending.)

ME:  You're a stupid man, no offense.

For those of you who are not in with this dating term: to be height-weight proportional is a way of saying “thin” or no evidence that you have eaten a Big Mac or M&Ms for the past 47 years. Back to the rules. 



I thought you might be too inflexible with the "lol" rule, until I read the quote from Mark and your reply. You know everything.


The "LOL" thing is now far to common place to be avoided. It's part of the new language that has developed thanks to all the facebook stuff and twitter. Say as much as one can in as few letters as possible. Time will tell if it is truly a blessing or curse.

That all being said, he was a bit inept saying what he said in the email.

Laura of Rebellious Thoughts of a Woman

Beth, I'm glad I can blaze the trail for you.

Dingo, it would have been much better if he just didn't respond. The sad think is he was probably thinking that he's such a great guy because he's telling me why he doesn't want to go on a date with me. Uh, no.

JC, is Brad Pitt looking for love on Craig's List? I thought his life was full enough. I guess being with a woman who looks perfect can have its drawbacks.

rockync, thanks for the support. The camel's back is broken, now I just need to find the place.

Liz A., I don't know, I bet I have more in common with a studious man who didn't go to college and rarely drinks than a man who drank his way through college and never opened a book after (or during).

She, I know you can't pay attention all day long everyday, but the cumulative effect of attending year upon year of school for nine months a year should have more of an impact than it seems to.

Antonella, my response to your sensible question: stupid, stubborn exhusband who is a lawyer, ineffectual legal system, lawyer who was unable to derail exhusband and his machinations, woman who had no idea that all roads would lead to this dead end.

Heidi Lou, sometimes you really do need to say what is on your mind--and then press the Send button.

Splodge!, patience. No, stupidity and optimism. A horrible package. It isn't so easy to get someone out of a house if he doesn't want to go.

Christine, the lol rule does not apply to responding to someone else's witty comments, it applies to laughing at one's own comments, which are rarely funny. Lol, I guess it's the laugh-track of emails.

Ricardo, "a bit inept," yes, he was stupid and insensitive. Regarding the lol, you can say someone else is, but you can't do it to yourself.

Stepping Thru

Great response and good outlook. Stick to the rules!

Laura of Rebellious Thoughts of a Woman

Stepping Thru, I was quite proud of my phrasing. The rules, yes, stick to the rules.

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