Romantic Weekend in Belfast
A Year of Mourning

Sharing Minutes

Opposite me sits a man who has fallen asleep. He sits on the floor, leaning against the couch. His head is back, his mouth is open, he is gently snoring. And when he wakes up a few minutes later he will say, “Laura, is there anything I can get for you?”

“No,” I will say because there isn’t anything I want and because I know that if I say something he will get up from the floor immediately.

That scene is the scene of my life since Kenny moved here in mid-October. The asking what he can do for me, and the fulfilling of those responses. And beyond that: the attempt to figure out what my responses would be before I formulate them. My life has changed since he has come into my life not only because I share my bed and my table and the minutes of my life with a wonderful man, but because my expectations for my life and how I will be treated and responded to have changed.

He tells me that I put everyone before myself. I ask, “Is that true?” because it doesn’t feel that way; I feel that I put myself before everyone else. But his contention, from observing me and hearing the stories of my days, presents angles of myself which I have never seen. And I appreciate those angles which come from his intense honesty and deep respect. “Refreshing” is too pale a word to sustain the thought that I am finally being reflected off a person who sees me in sunny tones because he, too, is a sunbeam. To be able to finally and fully discard the horror shop image of a woman that was presented to me for years is refreshing and life affirming. Surely it should have been done before, but until I had loving words to override the spite-filled ones there was always space in my mind for echoes.

Is there a way to thank a man beyond loving him?

“Aye,” as he would say.  There is coming up with answers to his question. There is the independent woman who can manage on her own, and there is the independent woman who can manage on her own who learns that strength can be found when two lean against each other. So, “Aye, Kenny, you could read this post.” 



Absolutely wonderful, Laura. I'm so happy for you that you found each other again! Enjoy every second together and please DO NOT THINK, just enjoy! Have a fab time. Ciao. A.


Life begins - again! {{{HUGS}}}


I tried to comment when you first posted this but it wouldn't let me so I will give it another try...doing the happy dance for happy that you and Kenny found each other...I am thankful that you have found someone that really see's you. Enjoy my friend enjoy. XX

Laura of Rebellious Thoughts of a Woman

Antonella, not to think. That will be a tough one. But at least I can share my thoughts with him and that is truly a comfortable thing.

rockync, we're still hoping to come down for a visit. Yes, life can be a lovely thing.

Lori, it worked this time--thanks for trying again. It is a wonder to see that the light did materialize. Not that I hadn't gotten to a nice place before, but to feel so loved and respected is truly a wonderful thing.


I'm still working on the house but hope to have it finished by the end of Dec. at latest. I will let you know when I'm done and then yes, come for a visit!

Laura of Rebellious Thoughts of a Woman

rockyny, no rush, we three will enjoy laughing out loud when the time is right. He, too, is a loud laugher. Not a shock, that. All the best.


Laura, it has been a long, long time since I read your blog. I guess I needed a break from all that I associated with a very painful time in my life. Yet, I am so glad that you shared your experience because I felt less alone.

I have a lot of catching up to do on what has transpired with you. At least from your most recent post, sounds like some amazing things are happening in your life.

I wish you all the best.

Laura of Rebellious Thoughts of a Woman

Jennie, I hope all is well with you. Yes, it's been a down and up two and a half years since we met online.

Thank you so much for letting me know that I was able to help you, as you did me.


Laura, how nice to be catered to for a change. Kenny is most definitely a keeper. And, like the others, I couldn't be happier for you. (Smiling inside.)

Laura of Rebellious Thoughts of a Woman

Margaret, how lovely it is to be with someone who is a true and loving partner, one I can joke around with as much as I can have a serious discussion with. Smiling inside and out. Thank you, as always, for your thoughts.

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